Islam Promotes Justice & Healthy Relationships
Islam as a preventive model:
- Men & women equal in eyes of Allah (Qur'an 49:13) and created from single soul (Qur'an 4:1)
- Spouses are garments for one another (Qur'an 2:187)
- Marriage based on mutual love and compassion for purpose of mutual tranquility (Qur'an 30:21)
- Communication should be positive(Qur'an 16:125, 14:24)
- Mocking, name-calling prohibited (Qur'an 49:11)
- Qiwaamah is the responsibility that all men are given by Allah to tend to the needs of women, as modelled by the Prophet (pbuh), and is not a right for men to abuse, hurt or control (Qur'an 4:34)
- Prophet’s leadership in home and community based on gentleness (Qur'an 3:159), shura (Qur'an 42:37-38 and 65:6)
- It is not our job to control others, just to advise (Qur'an 88:21-24)
- Must stand for justice (Qur'an 4:135)
- Hadith: Help the oppressed and the oppressor. Companions said, “We know how to help the oppressed, but how do we help the oppressor?” Prophet (pbuh) said, “by preventing him/her from committing further oppression)
- Must help and defend oneself in the face of oppression (Qur'an 42:39-40)
- Forgiving and seeking safety are not mutually exclusive
- Blame is on the perpetrator, not the victim (Qur'an 42:42)
- Do not ask the victim, “What did you do to make him angry or to make him hit you?” Rather, hold the perpetrator accountable and provide comfort and safety for the victim.
- Divorce can be a peaceful solution when safety and well-being cannot be obtained in the marriage (imsaak bi ma`ruf aw tasreeh bi ihsaan). (Qur'an 2:226-234 and 65:1-12).