Have You Experienced Abuse?
You may be in an abusive relationship if your partner:
- Regularly finds fault with you and makes you feel guilty.
- Calls you names that hurt your feelings.
- Refuses to let you have friends or prevents you from seeing your family.
- Intimidates you by using looks, gestures, or actions such as displaying weapons or smashing things.
- Threatens to leave you, hurt you, or commit suicide.
- Prevents you from knowing about or having access to money.
- Threatens to take your children away and/or says things to turn your children against you.
- Beats, pushes, slaps or chokes you.
- Forces you to engage in unwanted sexual behavior.
Once you recognize the abuse,
know you are not to blame
and you are not alone.
No one deserves to be abused.
This is not just the law in America,
this is the law of Islam.
* Ensure your safety. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.799.SAFE(7233), 24 hours, toll-free.
* If you are injured due to domestic violence, get medical treatment as soon as possible. The doctor/nurse will be able to treat you best if they know exactly what happened. Keep notes or a diary of your injuries and the times you were abused. This may help if you decide to leave later.
* Tell someone trustworthy about it. Telling someone is a way of relieving your suffering, breaking the silence, and the first step in getting help.
* Keep copies of important documents, extra clothing, money, and an extra set of keys in a safe place (like the home of a friend or relative) in case you need to leave your situation quickly. Also, memorize important phone numbers.
Adapted with permission from Chaya, Seattle, www.chayaseattle.org